Gardening as Therapy

'Queen of the night' Tulip

‘Queen of the night’ Tulip

Sometimes, things happen. Things that we don’t expect to happen, happen, and life changes… forever. We’re living through that at the moment, and it is really hard to navigate through all of the emotions we are feeling. Gardening is such an important part of my life, and it is in the garden where I feel healing. Please join me for a few minutes to enjoy some peace and tranquility in my garden.

‘Queen of the Night’ Tulips

The Queen of the Night tulips are strikingly beautiful, and for me their darkness also represents the sorrow that we feel. A friend and colleague of ours, and a genuinely super nice guy, Shay, achieved his life long ambition to reach the summit of Mt. Everest last week. Tragically, he fell on his descent. There are no other details, other than he is missing. It just doesn’t seem possible. Not Shay. But this is our new reality, including feeling numb with sadness. Gardening seems so trivial at times like these, but the garden is where I can go to find peace, and beauty, and renew my faith that somehow we, the immense community with whom Shay has so positively impacted, will all somehow get through this sad time. Come walk with me, as we use gardening as therapy…

Viburnum surrounded by Mystic van Eijk (the large tulips) and Don Quichotte (the small purple tulips)

Viburnum surrounded by Mystic van Eijk (the large tulips) and Don Quichotte (the small purple tulips)

The first of my tulips bloomed in March. They are circled around the Viburnum which blooms in May. The Beech hedges along the fence are still wearing their winter browns in this picture.

Viburnum opulus 'Roseum'

Viburnum opulus ‘Roseum’ May 21, 2019 with the remnants of the tulips still showing. The Beech hedge is now wearing sporting green leaves.

parrot tulips

Parrot tulips also bloom early in the season

Princess tulips April 27

Princess tulips April 27

The Princess tulips are just a couple of years old. Tulips can tend to “fade” with time (not look as nice after a few years). These are still young enough to look fresh.

Princess tulips + Queen of the Night tulips

Queen of the Night tulips + Princess Tulips

Queen of the Night tulips + Princess Tulips

I thought the contrast of the dark Queen of the Night and the bright Princess tulips would be nice together.  My only complaint is that the Princess tulips wither much quicker than the Queen of the Night tulips. But they are pretty.

Blushing Lady tulips

Blushing Lady tulips

The Blushing Lady tulips are special to me, because they were one of the first flowers that I planted in our home in Manlius, New York. A number of years ago I planted some in our current garden right next to the playhouse, but they were dug up (unintentionally!) and destroyed in the process.  So these were planted autumn 2018, well away from the playhouse. They are tall and the flowers are huge.

Blushing lady tulip

Blushing Lady Tulip

Merlot tulips + cherry tree

Merlot tulips + cherry tree

The Merlot tulips are also a new addition, planted in autumn 2018.  It is quite a strong color, which I like.

Merlot tulips + aubrietia

Merlot tulips + Aubrietia

The Merlot tulips look amazing with the Aubrietia (this is a second grouping of the Merlot tulips in the same bed).

Merlot tulips

Merlot tulips

Here’s a look at the full bed.  There are 3 groups of Merlot tulips, and 2 spare Ballerina tulips (they are orange) that were supposed to be moved out of this bed last year. The Aubrietia did really well this year. It is ever so slowly making its way to crawl over the wall (hopefully). The Boxwood (Box) has a lot of new growth, giving it a yellowish hue. I have a few Rose plants in here, too.

Merlot tulips open May 14

Merlot tulips open May 14

I do like capturing the inside of tulips.

Double Angelique tulips

Double Angelique tulips

Ballerina tulip fully open

Ballerina tulip fully open in May

Ballerina tulips are a fiery orange.  I have (most of them) at the ditch wall in our garden and they can still be seen from across the yard.

Tulip Ballerina

Ballerina tulips

Ballerina tulips open in May

And that brings us to the end of our garden tour, using gardening as therapy. Thank you for walking with me on this journey of grief. I pray for Shay, and his family, and that all of us will find peace.

In peace,
Dana

Life is too short – plant those flowers

Blushing Lady tulip

Blushing Lady tulip

Life is too short so Plant flowers?  Pardon me?  Here is where I’m coming from: I know of way too many cases of terminal illnesses, or extremely serious illnesses, or instances of hardship.  It is heartbreaking, and can really get me down. 

early in the tulip season, right after some rain

early in the tulip season, right after some rain

Are flowers the answer to all of that heartache?  No, they aren’t.  But they can be a peaceful and beautiful diversion.

they are works of art to me

they are works of art to me

fully opened parrot tulip

fully opened parrot tulip

I think it is important to do things that make us happy, bring us joy, or simply make us smile.

burgundy colored tulips (I am getting quite the collection of colors!)

burgundy colored tulips (I am getting quite the collection of colors!)

Why not do something simple that brings such nice returns?   You’d be surprised how just seeing flowers can improve your mood.  Last year I posted on my facebook page some pictures of flowers which my neighbor grows in her “roadside garden”.

Flowers from a roadside garden near my home

Flowers from a roadside garden near my home

They are so lovely to see.  It seems I am always in a hurry and have too much on my mind yet when I see those flowers I just “stop” and enjoy that moment of beauty.

sure if you're gonna stop and take pictures you'd might as well say hello to the animals too! ;-)

sure if you’re gonna stop and take pictures you’d might as well say hello to the animals too! 😉

For all of those people who are suffering in any way, I pray for you to find peace. May we all find ways to help those around us who might need that extra bit of kindness.

a little bit of sunshine opens up the flowers

a little bit of sunshine opens up the flowers

I think I’ll do my part in planting more flowers, too, to hopefully bring more beauty in the world.

Flowers from my neighbor's roadside garden

Flowers from my neighbor’s roadside garden

With warm regards,
Dana

 

 

Wordless Wednesday: A memory trigger Tulip

Blushing Lady tulip

Blushing Lady tulip

First I must start with clarifying that “Wordless Wednesday” for me means a blog post with very “light” content!  🙂  Now, on to the topic at hand… Do you know what I mean by “A memory trigger”?  Something that brings back memories:  Scents can often be memory triggers, or a song, or even a flower.

Blushing Lady tulip

Blushing Lady tulip

I started gardening when we moved into our first house, in New York.  I didn’t spend a lot of time in the garden, though, because I had three babies and never enough energy, not to mention time.  One type of flower I did plant, though, was a variety of this Blushing Lady tulip.  The only difference is that the original variety had a lovely scent.

Blushing Lady tulips next to our play house

Blushing Lady tulips next to our play house

I try really hard not to impulse buy with plants, but I saw a bag of these Blushing Lady bulbs in the store last year and that was it.  I just had to have them. For me, they brought me right back to my days of having babies and carefree days playing in the yard with them.  My oldest child is turning 18 this summer!

creating a bed just for them

creating a bed just for them

I’ve been wanting to create some flower beds around our play house and this was a perfect incentive to get the job started. I like the pink & yellow tulips with the playhouse background.  I like the pink & yellow tulips full-stop!   I’m not really sure what is going to be planted with them.  I’m sure something will present itself!

Do you have any plant memory triggers?

In peace,
Dana